Let me explain. I was busy shuffling kids to sporting events, swim meets, birthday parties, sleep overs, etc. Then there were all the parent-teacher meetings, PTO activities, Cub Scouts, Girl Scouts, club activities, before and after school events and much more. Topping all of that off, I played Team Mom for numerous soccer, T-Ball, baseball, basketball and football teams. I bandaged boo boos and arranged treat schedules for games and organized end-of-season parties. I also watched as boys and girls made winning soccer goals or finally smacked their first baseball.
"Look at that, Team Mom," I heard many times from proud and excited kiddos who had finally accomplished their goals.
My growing family of three children and their commitments meant a lot of schedule keeping, and sometimes things did not go so well. Like the time I thought someone else was picking up my daughter Cristina from swimming practice, and that person thought I was going to pick her up. Ahem. You guessed it. No one showed up to drive her home. Thank goodness Coach Rose dropped her off at our house, and she had a key. When I got home, there she was. Was I ever ashamed of myself! Those were the days before cell phones were so handy. It wasn't easy or even practical for folks to track each other down on pay phones,
Needless to say I didn't have the time to watch many movies (except for anything relating to Star Wars or Star Trek, for those we found baby sitters.) Sitcoms like The Nanny, Northern Exposure and Buffy the Vampire Slayer were never on my TV, though my boys did turn on The Blair Witch project one evening and totally believed it was REAL. These days they'd never admit to it, but a mom knows these things. That show had then suckered in BIG TIME.
Do I feel like I missed anything significant from the 1990s? Not really. Being involved in my kids' lives was much more important. I also learned a lot of solid skills like follow-through, organization, dedication, professionalism and customer service as a volunteer for schools and sports teams. These are all things that make my job easier now, I believe, because I spent so many years practicing and perfecting them.
What about the things I missed? Not a biggie. All those programs and movies are now out as reruns on cable channels or you can purchase them on the Internet. Besides, most of that was all fictional.
Now my kids, they're very real and I feel like we established a good foundation.
Now when I attend sports games for my granddaughters, I often see the Team Moms handing out snacks and herding the kids around for the coaches. They smile, but look a bit tired. I know how they feel.
I watch them, and I smile as I feel the passing of the years and the baton to other young women who are now the mothers raising the kids.
Do they know, despite their busy lives, that they have the best job in the world? If they don't know it now, some day they will.